Today I was discussing dating protocol with a friend, and imparting what little wisdom I have on the matter, when suddenly I remembered a fantastic example from my past where a guy I was meeting up with told me he were close by and then just never showed up, never messaged, never called. It was a total Chuck Cunningham Syndrome moment.
A few months later I was talking to my then-therapist (I wasn’t seeing a therapist because of Chuck, the laughs I’ve gotten from telling that date story more than made up for it) and she asked me to make a list of what I wanted in a relationship and it was one of the most eye-opening experiences of my life.
Nowhere on the list was children.
Very high on my list was not living in the city forever and owning a dog, having someone who it felt like I was on a team with, someone who made me laugh and was kind.
Nowhere on my list was earning big bucks, but having enough to travel was a priority.
I was telling my friend about the list today, saying everyone should make one and then use it when they feel unsure about a person.
It gave me reason to think about my list.
Chronic illness knocked on the head what little desire I might have had for children and I’m still super happy with my decision.
I have a boyfriend who makes me laugh many times a day and who keeps my worries in check to the point where I hardly have any and when I do, I can see them far more logically than I’ve ever been able to before.
We’re going to Japan in December and will spend Christmas and New Year’s Eve in Tokyo.
We both have jobs that satisfy us and allow us to do things like take trips.
He’s my best friend and favourite person to be around.
For months we’ve been talking about moving further out from the city, somewhere that allowed us a lot more space, was a move in the direction we want to eventually take and it would mean we could get a dog.
For months we discussed dogs and what kind we’d like to get, settling pretty early on a corgi.
About 5 weeks ago I contacted a woman who shows corgis and very occasionally sells them if they can’t be shown. I expected she’d tell me to wait until next year, but instead she had a pup who she might want to sell in a few weeks.
We waited anxiously for about two weeks and then she contacted us and asked us if we wanted to buy the pup we’d already been calling Delilah.
We picked her up on Saturday and she’s gorgeous.
And now we are four …